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From: E
Date: 8/3/99
Time: 3:55:14 PM
You absolute star! My folks live in Lxembourg, but I am living in Middlesex and getting married in Berkshire next summer, in my fiance's village. To save on expensive phone calls my mother and I e-mail each other (on company time), mulling over the guestlist. She also passses on my father's comments (off the record)on my choice and number of guests. I must explain that I am Scottish and that apart from my parents and myself, they all live in Scotland. My mother's family is quite poor and rather large. My father's on the other hand is smaller, they are all reasonably well-off and I don't get on with them very well at all. In fact, I haven't bothered to visit most of them in years. Your e-mail about mothers-in-law reminded me not so much of my own (great) future mother-in-law, but of my own father who is a very domineering man and is trying to "make his mark" on the guestlist. I find this infuriating and we would have had a vry big bust-up over the phone if it weren't for the calming influences of my fiance, mother and friends, who keep reminding me that it is my day. Although it sounds a little mean, I am glad to note that other people are having similar problems, and that i am not just making a mountain out of a molehill. Just yesterday I theatened to ban family altogether from the ceremony and festivities. I have yet to confront my father in person over this matter (at the end of the month when they meet the in-laws) and your message has given me that extra little bit of confidence to face him. Thanks for your help, and I hope no one else ever has to go through such dilemmas again!